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Can tolerate, he should be content to; he would think that he is not too severe.
 
 
Now we want to explore the "reject", the depression caused by the second character background. Here refers to the poor, the lack of maternal environment. Women are usually cold little experience childhood love, their own experience, the lack of a model mother, is not
Clear what children need. Is relatively harmless because of the uncertainty, and that children do not understand, so do not address the child’s individual needs, according to regulations to the care, education, children’s "plan mother." The first one just to meet the baby’s mother wrote the following diary: "Little boys screamed for hours, but feeding time yet." For a long
Period of time, this record has repeatedly appeared in her diary on. Physicians cited this phenomenon the "academic" private opinions, sometimes quite difficult.
 
To a child learn to adapt to living conditions have long ignored the needs of individuals, is undoubtedly too harsh. If he does not rule nursing time, no one after drinking milk, playing with him, was immediately

Come back," "you want to send me to the grave" and so on.
 
If the pet child of the first motive is to love her children, grateful to her, then the second motivation is more complex, the child is also worse. Usually such cases, the child not the mother wanted, or for other reasons, so her children cold, hostile, but
Also asked himself to be a good mother, if I can not on the conscience. Out of guilt, her pet child, working like mad to have to forge a rapprochement with the children. This mother is hard enough  and imagine, stepchildren with the most common situation  let alone young children. Children know mother’s hard work but also aware that behind
The apathy and hostility, lack of love, not by favor to balance. Pet can only be grateful into the situation of children, and his intention was really not made by Xie. This will cause the children feel that their existence is a mistake. He felt his mother’s burden, in fact, he does not have the right to life, if she

Dependence of this time is apparent, the child must give up selfdevelopment, or else he will be burdened with worry about the sins of the mother to worry about  the child, this is The only way to solve the dilemma. There is nothing about the guilt of this wakeup "education" and allow the children to feel as heavy as the
Burden of crushing. Once the children grow up, and able to maintain a distance from these experiences, the realization that the suffering of childhood not necessary, but parents love the way right, he will be very difficult to forgive the fault of parents.
 
Here to cite a typical example but not too strange:
 
If the mother that he did not
Rule  usually just means he did not immediately obey, or do should be done, she immediately lay on the sofa, "dead"  which means that the mother will move too long the fixed, remain indifferent to the child’s cry, to cry up until the child despair.
 
Threats such as these children often evoke feelings of guilt  "I had gone to never

To pay their remuneration, but see it as selfsacrifice, giving up good things, of course, come one after another painful annoyance.
 
However, the situation of children in fact more complex heart, there is no way to resist them, in addition to cancellation of his hatred of the right to attack the mother of his feelings. Courage to speak their minds
Even if the feelings of their mothers will also elaborate on the head, then tells them how to care for young, at the expense of those things, to awaken their hearts feelings of guilt. Although this is true, but the baby did not ask his mother for him as a horse, how can it make them feel grateful? Moreover, the
Behavior of these mothers are not conducive to children. Child’s sense of shame is even worse than being denounce heartless, evil for anxiety, he no longer tried to free himself. Sensitive temperament children will feel pain, therefore, suffered injuries, we will cite the example in the introduction. They dare not leave the starting of the mother, airtight and extremely close

Mother, like an echo of the world, and even the boundaries themselves are ignorant. He was passive, with every possible way, hopes to continue his mother’s favorite subject. This continues he will inevitably be disappointed, disappointed for lurking in the heart of the depression finally broke out.
 
 
Mother to a child’s way because of their experience is different, such as
Divorce, widowhood, children born during the marriage ran aground, too frequent childbirth and so on, will let the children more upset. Only son than to have brothers and sisters of children even worse, because the great love of his mother only one infusion of his body. One patient was an only child, made no secret once said: "If my mother
Had dumped her love me, I will be congestion."
 
Allow the free development of children is absolutely necessary, which makes the mother’s task is to become a thankless task. If mothers expect their children to be thankful for, or ask them to return, the situation will only get worse. Immature children who do not believe that healthy growth is hard

That in the outside world will be pampered at home, once a little flow, and he was very frustrated. He realized that he was clumsy and weaknesses, and then rehide the old castle. He knew his weakness, life seems prohibitively difficult task, he scared off the back and decided to do nothing.
 
The mother will not let their children grow
Big enough that they live on their own, their own development, they tied their children with love, and even children are not allowed to express itself on the mother’s love, but directly under the command: "For me, a little better "" kiss me "; their children not to do things:" Well, let me, "" hard, "" You will not ";
Abruptly destroy the child kick:" do you want to play this "" my back "… … does not know what consequences this will create. Through these means, they stifle the child’s selfdevelopment, joint to the initial destruction of a child for life, cherish the dream of life. In this case, the child can not learn to "spin" to mount the

A very wonderful description.
 
No desire, aspirations, and kick, he lived in the world on anything not lift a finger, had to rely on someone else again. Such mothers often tell their children, most of the dangerous outside world, so that children grow up, that only the mother to give him warmth and security, protection, and understand. He turned to
The development of the world kick so weakened, I believe home is the best. This mother not allowing people to close their children, full of jealousy to protect the child; the opposite sex have been resigned to worthless. Mother of the child to establish friendships with others, the reaction is sadness and pain, as if the child had betrayed her,
As she put everybody else as a potential competitor, most likely to steal her child. Her "gentle abused" children in general will continue into adolescence, children kick in to fill the motherly love smothered in cotton. Stand the test of character, such as rude, unfeeling indifference, in these children who can not find. He is still dependent on heavy heart,

The world as a buffer between the exhaustion of another way to protect children. They can not accept the child’s emotional health and nature; very normal emotional behavior and meet the age, will only make them feel aggrieved, and tears, the children of course feel guilty.
 
All these not only make children more close to the mother, but worse still
Is not much opportunity to experience his own power, but also he played from childhood to think that everything can not be without a mother, want to do anything all have to obtain prior approval from the mother’s permission before line. So go on, in the end he simply did not belong to their own wishes. He gave up, become
Passive lazy, and he hopes other people have guessed what he wants, and should fulfill his wishes, for he had long stopped looking forward to what, abandoning everything. This resulted in just to comfort, passive attitude, life in his village if the happiness of his depression hidden inside the park. Gong Xia Ruofu (Gontscharow) novel "" (Oblomow) (1), there is

His mother would like to firmly grasp, never to see him as a child; this investment long after the mother’s sacrifice and dedication, we should not overlook  who are willing to care for themselves, adding the drawing If children do run away?
 
Their pet kids, from feeding time began, when the baby crying  often the baby to prove his vitality
In their hurried Qubao he curbed the baby kick; but once that baby is not too interested in, they will be on the use of submerged infinite tenderness, baby no opportunity to express their emotions, nor for his own unhappy to find a solution. This does not leave the children’s mother, a moment, like a magnet to attract children’s attention
And feel, and live with him, quote a phrase used boxing terms is: a long closecatch at rivals, no one can move around freely. In the days to come in, they are for the same motive, to help kids pay for everything all the things to interfere, for he "repeatedly to explain in detail", and then between their children and

Talk about spoiled. Mothers of young children who most easily find this phenomenon, "mother hen with chicks," the mother of these children are always most want to infant children, helpless and need her, and dependent on her. For depression in mothers, out of the subconscious fear of losing and fear of life anonymous, or fear of losing the love of
Her child, the child will be loved. They poured the soft body in young children, do not let go and let their children engage in healthy and should learn.
 
Sometimes this is the fate of the women, they are disappointed in marriage, or loss of companionship, and children is their sole owner, and they too need their children, children need
Love, so they do their best to make children feel grateful. Children grew bigger and bigger, problems come one after another, they watched with great panic children grow taller and become independent, this means to her: he is getting big, too soon do not need me to find someone else go. In children this respect, intuition would tell him that